I’m 60 years old. And I don’t like when someone comes to my home.

I’m 60 years old. I’ve been living alone for many years, and the older I get, the more I realize I don’t like when someone comes over. It hasn’t always been this way. When I was young, I loved having guests. Back then it felt natural: the house had to be open, the doors always wide, the smell of food in the kitchen, laughter, conversations until late at night. I would set a big table, rush around with the dishes, welcome everyone, happy that people felt comfortable in my home. I got tired, of course, but it was a pleasant kind of tiredness. I felt needed.

Now everything has changed. Over the years, I’ve grown into the feeling that the house is only my space, and I don’t want to let anyone in. Even if they’re close people. Even if they come with good intentions. I get uneasy when the phone rings and someone says: “We’ll drop by.” Immediately I feel a weight in my chest. I start thinking: “Why? For how long? What should I say or do?” I want to hide, make up an excuse.

I’ve noticed that anyone’s presence at home disrupts my balance. Everything is in its place. Every object, every cup or book is arranged in a way that is comfortable for me. This is my order. And suddenly someone arrives, puts a cup in the wrong spot, sits in my chair, turns on the tap or opens the fridge. For others it may be insignificant, but at that moment I feel like my world has been disturbed. As if I’m being deprived of air.

When my children come, it feels a little different. I wait for them, I miss them. But even then. I’m glad they came, but immediately I feel this inner worry: will they feel comfortable, will they like the food, is there enough space, is everything in order? I’m always tense. And when they leave, I feel relief. I can breathe again, be myself again. Walk around the apartment in my old robe, sit in the kitchen in silence, drink tea without rushing, look out the window and not have to hurry anywhere.

I understand that with age I have less energy to interact. When someone is in the house, I have to talk, smile, keep the conversation going, play the role of the “hostess.” But I no longer want that role. I’m tired of performing it. I don’t have the strength anymore to pretend to be welcoming when inside I feel empty or exhausted. I’m calmer when I’m alone. I can talk to my children on the phone, meet a friend at a café, or go for a walk in the park. But at home, I hardly ever invite anyone.

At one point I thought it wasn’t normal. That I had grown cold. Maybe it was age, maybe loneliness. But then I realized: it’s not an illness or a whim. It’s my right. I have the right to protect my space. My home is my reflection. It’s the place where I can be authentic, where I don’t have to play a role for anyone. I decide who can cross that door. And most of the time, the answer is no one.

People tell me: “But you’ll end up alone.” And I’m already alone, but in this solitude I find peace. Yes, sometimes I want to talk, to hug someone. But I’ve found other ways to connect. And my home I keep only for myself.

It may seem strange to others. Maybe someone will judge and say: “Old age makes you a recluse.” Or maybe, on the contrary — it’s maturity. I’ve spent many years living for others. Cooking, welcoming, entertaining. Now I want to live for myself.

And I wonder: is it a sign of loneliness and fatigue, or is it simply a natural desire for a woman my age — to protect her own world and let no one in?